Abuse within teenage relationships is much more common than people might think. In fact, recent surveys suggest that approximately 40% of young people are already experiencing abuse in relationships during their teenage years (Domestic Violence London, 2014). What’s more, one in three teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by their boyfriend or girlfriend (Love is Not Abuse, 2007). As a young person it is therefore important that you’re aware of the early warning signs of an unhealthy relationship before it becomes too late.
Can you recognise any of these features in your or a friends’ partner?
- Do they find it very difficult to trust you, and are they often in contact to check up on you (where you are, who you are with)?
- Does your partner dislike compromise or having to admit that they are ever wrong?
- Do they often call you names or insult you/put you down?
- Does your partner ever attempt to persuade you to do something you don’t want to do?
- Do they make you feel unsafe and do you worry how your partner will react to some situations?
- Have they ever physically hurt you?
- Do they respect you and your decisions?
- Have they caused you to feel isolated from friends/relatives?
Do see any of these aspects in your own or a friends or relatives relationship? It may be that this relationship could be classed as one involving domestic abuse, and that help is needed. The Dash Charity provides specialist one-to-one therapeutic support and help to those who are affected by domestic abuse, linking in to with numerous services it offers to help you or someone you might know. We also run prevention workshops in schools and youth organisations to highlight the early warning signs of abusive behaviours and raise general awareness of our services, ensuring that people look to us for help if necessary.
If you or anyone you know are in need of any help, please contact The Dash Charity on 01753549865 or Zaira, the School Preventions Officer, at Zaira@thedashcharity.org.uk
This Blog post was brought to you by Zaira McIntyre, Schools Prevention Worker